The Affirmations and the Ways You can Utilize them

It’s Good to say your Affirmations.


With every waking moment possible I tend to make a habit of saying my affirmations. Affirmations are phrases/sentences intended to affect the conscious and subconscious mind. With doing so, it may change the way you think and behave, give you motivation, and keep your mind focused on the goal. Making a habit of stating affirmations personally makes me feel like a brand new person afterwards. It gives me the feeling of being ready to accomplish any task given. It’s a ritual I’ve been doing for the last month or two and by far, the greatest thing I’ve ever done. What got me started on affirmations was watching many  Law of Attraction videos on youtube and subscribing to some of the channels offered. By doing so, it became easier to get in the habit of stating affirmations. I believe everyone should get in the habit of stating  their affirmations of choosing  at least six times a day. The more times you tell yourself positive statements the more positive influence you’ll attract ( Law of Attraction). LOL.

If you’re having a bad day, persevere by trying the  following affirmations repeatedly:

I am Abundant now in all areas of my life.

I have the ability to produce this feeling within me and therefore it’s already mine.

Because I’ve claimed this, it now activates within me, the fullness and wholeness of my limitless self. As I now realize my new mastery of my own consciousness and feelings, I attract all that I desire.

I live in the complete alignment with the energy that I originally own.

I feel and breathe this truth. My subconscious mind is now completely aligned with my Master Intention and creates new beliefs that match it.

All that I desire is now transformed deep within my subconscious mind as the wholeness of who I am. My Master Intention is now in Harmony & Union with all that I desire.

All thoughts and beliefs within me are in alignment with this Master Intention because I know I have the ability to feel the way I choose to feel in any moment.

I am whole and fulfilled. My intentions, my being, my subconscious & conscious mind are all one in Harmony & Alignment with my heart’s desires.

Know Your self, Know Your Worth

Know Your self, Know Your worth

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Everyone is unique in their own way. That’s what makes us all different and special about ourselves. I’m definitely a firm believer of the mantra, “Know Your self, Know Your Worth” because it is only YOU that know your entire being. How you speak, act, think, carry yourself etc., describes your entire worth (or what you over/underestimate it to be). Knowing yourself is the best gift you can possibly (or at least top 10). However, you’d be surprised of the many people that don’t know either or.

The Thirst Trap

I’m not going to say EVERY woman who thirst traps have nothing POSITIVE to offer; for that would be ignorant of me to say. Due to the fact that I don’t know ALL women, i’m not viable to make that statement. I’m sure there are (a majority of) women such as strippers, models, pornstars, “bottle service technicians” (which is by far the funniest name for an occupation that I’ve heard in my opinion) or women who love corn flakes that take provocative photos in their leisure. That’s totally fine. I find nothing wrong with that. Do as you do. However, what I can talk about is what I’ve witnessed in the 12 years I’ve been on social media. Don’t worry, I’m not going to put every experience on here, I promise. It’s just that certain women would go to a store to try on clothes that don’t fit; to go in the dressing room, snap a picture of themselves and post it on social media. Then, they’d put a caption that has EXACTLY nothing to do with the photo such as:

  • “I’m getting thick”
  • (enter any bible verse here)
  • “I wonder if this fits me”
  • “who left the milk out of the fridge?”

I guess the term “post your pic and go” doesn’t apply to you, I see. So, you wore the outfit that couldn’t fit you in which nobody knows you have sand in your vagina. Maybe you have a yeast infection. You advertise yourself on social media with some bullshit ass caption seeking attention. Suddenly you look in the mirror and realize you didn’t like the outfit so you put it back where it belongs JUST for someone else to have sand in their vagina. After you posted the picture, you end up getting 13 likes in 6 days. SAD panda.

Listen I’m a huge fan of curves (if they’re proportionate). If you knew your self and what your worth was, you should’ve worn clothes that fit. Maybe you would’ve gotten an extra 5 likes for being SMART and tasteful.

The Irony.


With the sure fact most women post thirst traps (either by accident or on purpose), they dont really seem to be into men’s comments. Regardless if its respectful or not, women are more in tuned with other women say because I’m assuming that most men who respond are “thirsty.” They ignore the men, yet play along with the women. Women end up getting compliments and/or “dic-tures” and they advertise on their news feed. Which doesn’t make sense because if you weren’t interested to begin with, I’m pretty sure it’d take less time and energy to block, delete and keep it moving. Now you wasted your time showing out to your followers to boost your self esteem. You just gave him free promotion. How silly? That’s another example of NOT knowing your worth.

Here’s where it gets exciting.

Sunday I was at work doing a double shift. I finished reading my book and decided to go on Twitter. I scroll on the timeline and (OF COURSE), I’d see a woman post a thirst trap. However, a guy commented on the picture conversing with friends about sports on the thirst trap. When I saw the thread of the conversion, it was the best idea I’ve ever seen. I laughed and told myself:

“This is too good to be TRUE”

I continue scrolling and see another thirst trap with yet a different conversation from other guys.

“Could this be a new phenomenon”

“Is this a game changer? because if so, I’m a fan! LOL

But of course, when there’s SUN, there’s RAIN.

Some women who are known to post thirst traps didn’t take heed to the new phenomenon quite well. Proclaiming it to be “corny,” “lame” or “stupid.”

I’ve seen one girl say:

“If you didn’t like the thirst trap, you could’ve just scrolled past it”

Sounds familiar, doesn’t it? LOL. Another girl swung for the fences and posted a picture with her ass poking out and said:


Next thing I know one of my followers were conversing about how horrible the NFL Pro Bowl was. The women went as far as calling the person “Gay” or a “cornball” because he didn’t want to acknowledge the thirst trap in which he wanted to misdirect the rhetoric of the fat ass to start an intellectual conversation. Meanwhile, I thought women didn’t like when men complimented or thirsted under their pictures. Now they dont like the idea of misdirection when its not in their favor.

My words to the women who are very upset of the new phenomenon:

If you knew your self and what your worth was you wouldn’t be so hateful. Now you’re upset because you don’t like the attention you’re NOT receiving. Now you gotta take the sand out of your vagina.

The Plus Size of Everything.

As I said earlier, a woman with curves is a beautiful sight to see if they’re proportionate. A lot of people may not like plus sized women. That’s ok. However, we must understand that not everyone is universally attractive. Also, I enjoy the liberation of plus sized women on social media. In fact, I applaud their confidence. Society is in a way accepting plus sized women NOW compared to how it was 20-30 years ago.

Here’s my problem.

I would see a plus sized woman post a before and after photo of herself about her being overlooked when she was younger and the transformation that she became. Then she’d write a long ass story about it (which is fine because she learned to love herself as time progressed- I like that). However, what happens when you tell ONE joke MULTIPLE times? Answer? The impact isn’t as powerful. They’d do the same thing on different consecutive pictures. Leave MLA formats and Christmas-esque wishlist on it saying the exact same thing. What makes this all bad is that they’re quick to say:

“I dont care what anyone else thinks”


“I can do what I want”

Yet, you’re posting this for attention. Seeking validation for what reason? It was great the first time. You dont have to ruin the bowl of Frosted flakes by adding MORE sugar when it’s already SWEET enough. Now you have guys sending you dic-tures while looking at you selling Flat Tummy Tea/fake fashionova apparel. Next thing you know you’re posting a picture with a 1000 word essay as a caption talking about you were “overlooked as a child” so now you’re “some fire ass bitch who don’t answer DMs unless its about money for my premium snap.” Some guy gave you $5, but that’s not enough to take you to work and back home on the train. You then go to drastic measures by dancing/swinging on the pole on the 5 train heading to Eastchester/Dyre Avenue. Someone threw a quarter at the side of your head. Now you’re on the floor with a concussion. Someone dragged you out of the train and left you on the East 180 street platform. It’s 22 degrees outside; 11:37 PM and you’re shivering because you didn’t dress warm. On top of which you have a knot on the side of your head. Cold world. You should’ve not only knew but loved yourself and your worth. You probably would’ve avoided the headache (no pun intended)

Some of you might say:

“Dec, I dont know why you went this hard for… It aint that deep, you being wild corny!”

First of all, shut the fuck up forever. It’s not my fault these digital dickheads don’t understand how to love themselves enough for the better.

The Root..


All jokes aside, lets get to the root of the issue. Most of us have people we associate with or interested in from time to time. Yet we feel as if we give too much of ourselves to those who show limited or no reciprocation at all. For example, lets say you want to go out with a friend or someone you like. You’re very interested in being accompanied with their company that you enjoy their time a lot. They reply with “I’ll let you know” or “I’m busy.” Although they can have a potentially busy schedule, NOBODY is TOO BUSY for anything. Especially when they’re VERY interested. People make time for who they want to make time for. The president of the United States is the busiest man in the world yet he makes time for the first lady.

So, lets do the math in our Cam’ron Killa season voices shall we? Ok.

There’s 168 hours in a week.

Know your self know your worth

  • The average amount of work full time is 40 hours.
  • Now you’re down to 128 hours.
  • A person sleeps for about 49-56 hours (without interruption)
  • Which means without working, you have 2 whole days (unless you sleep a lot).
  • That would bring it to 72-79 hours left.
  • That means work and sleep put together is 96 hours with 72 of being awake.
  • Going to school full time is 12 hours more or less (I haven’t went to college in almost 7 years so forgive me for not knowing the correct amount of time).
  • Now you’re down to 60 hours of being awake.

SO you mean to tell me that a person can’t text within those 60 hours?

Listen. If you are to ever catch yourself double texting someone and they’re not giving you any type of communication, take a step back, pray/meditate (if you’re not on medication) say your affirmations and continue your day. I promise you it’s the fastest way to live within your truth/ knowing what you’re worth. By then, someone may come along the way and would die for your attention. It’s funny because I’ve been on a social media cleanse lately. I would care to talk to someone a lot to see how they’re doing. However, they’d give one word answers or not reply at all. So I delete them from everywhere (even from my phone). I don’t need negative frequencies around my aura. I am abundant and time is of the essence. I am worthy for all positive things that come into my life and most importantly…

Challenge is GROWTH.

Let me know what you think in the comments and dont forget to share across your social media platforms. Thank YOU!

Inspiration: How to Master the Outstanding Concept of Life

What is Inspiration?

Inspiration is a divine influence or action a person believed to qualify the person to receive and communicate sacred revelation. Of course, everyone has a motive on what drives them to do whatever it is they have planned. Whether it’s bad or good, something is the engine to their influence. The more the person is inspired, the better chances the person has to master a particular objective.



What inspires Me?

Sometimes looking at successful people in sports entertainment is an inspiration to me. They overcame obstacles to get to the place they’re at; no matter what background they’re from, they haven’t let their circumstances compromise what dreams they’ve did their best to accomplish. The intriguing part of inspiration to me is seeing people who AREN’T as famous as the entertainment figures become successful. It’s as if the more I read about these people, I feel as if I myself, can complete any objective. For example. My girlfriend bought me a book for my birthday titled, “Black Privilege: Opportunity Comes To Those Who Create It” by Charlamagne The God. She said to me:

“He reminds me of you because of how brutally honest both of you are, besides the fact that both of you are Bald and Black LOL.”

Of course she would slide a lowkey backhanded compliment like that LOL. However, The crazy thing is she’s right because that knowing he (Charlamagne) is not the one to bite his tongue on ANYTHING. Whether you love him or not, he’s going to tell you what it is. A lot of people think of him as ignorant probably because he doesn’t care about what people who hates him; thinks about him. Which is basically how everyone should be (though i know in some cases, its easier said than done).  As I read the book, he discusses his background being from a dirt road in Monks Corner, South Carolina. Let me tell you, when i researched that particular place, it looked very isolated on the map. Anyway, he didn’t have the luxurious lifestyle you’d see him with in the present day. He’s been in jail throughout his adolescent years, sold drugs, worked at multiple radio stations in South Carolina (in which later he migrated to New Jersey and met Wendy Williams). In fact, she was the person who helped gave him the opportunity before landing at the most syndicated hip hop radio show; The Breakfast Club alongside DJ Envy and Angela Yee. Though I never been a criminal before, what inspires me about Charlamagne is no matter what obstacles he faced in his earlier life, he was still able to find and create an opportunity for himself (probably still creating MORE opportunities as I write this post).

“It’s not about the size of the pond, but the hustle in the fish”

-Charlamagne The God

He teaches that anyone (no matter what color, creed, religion etc.,) has the opportunity to create an opportunity for themselves. If he can come from nothing to be something later on in life, then anyone else can. Nothing is impossible in life, though it takes a process because Challenge is Growth. If you live in your truth, inspiration helps you master your truth so you’d be able to live without worry.


Inspiration on a chalkboard

Inspiration: A Mental Game

Inspiration is a mental game like everything else. It’s even MORE rewarding when you accomplish a goal because of inspiration.  For example, there’s a guy, Chris Huerta. A Los Angeles Lakers fan who lost 170 pounds since Kobe Bryant’s last game in April 2016. At the time of Kobe Bryant’s jersey retirement ceremony, it was a picture of him on social media with a before and after picture saying “The Mamba Mentality” help inspired him to lose 170 pounds. When Kobe played his last game in April 2016, Chris was listed at 390 pounds. Like anyone else starting out at the gym, the road to reach your goal is VERY LONG. Especially when you’re being tempted by foods that aren’t healthy for you. It seems like everywhere u walk, drive, skip etc, your bad habits attack you more and more to the point where it can be both mentally and physically exhausting. It’s as if once you give in to your bad habits, its VERY DIFFICULT to break out of. As I continued to read more about him, I could only imagine the challenges he had to face with being overweight. He one day said:

“I was sitting at a Taco Bell drive-thru and I was like: ‘Why am I here?’ I’m going to be here again tomorrow. A lot of it was just exhaustion. I was exhausted with being fat.”

The intriguing thing about this story is when I would go to the gym and see people who are overweight, their work ethic is more impeccable than the ones who are more physically fit. I enjoy seeing them in the gym because it shows that they want to get into the habit of being fit. Not only for their health, but for their livelihood. It’s as if they come to the gym to focus on a goal, instead of showing off being boastful. It even gives me hope because I’d always look forward to seeing the end result. The AMAZING thing about Chris Huerta is he was able to help his brother lose 40 pounds. So it’s proven in most cases that Consistency and Inspiration is Contagious.


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Inspiration: How a negative can be a positive.

You’re probably thinking to yourself, “This is an oxymoron.” Well, though it’s perceived to be one, it’s not. Let me explain.

You can be in a negative situation. Homelessness, toxic relationships, unemployment, eating pasta with a spoon, pouring milk before cereal in a bowl, whatever. There’s always a positive in each situation. Reason is because, the negativity should inspire you to do more with yourself. At my times of unemployment last year, what inspired me to do better was watching DJ Khaled and Kevin Hart on Snapchat. Their work ethics were (and still is) amazing to me. To the point where when I was hungry, watching their snapchat stories made me forget about my hunger. When i was down to my last $5; ready to waste it on Popeyes, I would watch their stories and my hunger would disappear.

Of course, this wasn’t available to me when i was in Basic Training in the Winter of 2011. However through my hunger times then, what inspired me was the fact that we all went through the same thing as soldiers. Boxed in without any source of food after we ate at certain times. Candy and any type of sweets were contraband. Even small packets of peanut butter. If you were caught, it was going to be a SHORT bedtime and LONG night of being disciplined.  A select few number of soldiers didn’t make it out of Basic Training (for whatever reason). What inspired me to keep going was my mind wouldn’t let me quit any obstacle. Even when at times were rough. Of course, the most negative thing about the experience is not researching my (Military Occupation Specialty) job prior to enlisting. On top of that enlisting for 6 years. The positive thing is i can commit to anything I put my mind to. Hence, I’ve received my Honorable Discharge a month and a half ago.

See how something negative can be a positive? I know.. pretty mind blowing.



Inspiration: The Conclusion.

You have to be able to know what inspires YOU to unlock your potential. Inspiration (synonymous to motivation), can take you very far in life. As I said earlier, I understand it’s easier said than done. However, it all starts with YOU. You can’t say (if your goal is to lose weight), “I’m going to go the gym consistently, everyday and eat right.” Then, you have a cheat day and then give into the habit of incorporating more cheat days, eating junk. Now you’re on social media looking stupid with the caption on a vintage picture saying, “Take me back to this.” Well, that’s your fault for not being consistent with what inspired you to begin with. I believe that’s fair to say, right?

If you don’t know what inspires you, research inspirational quotes on social media since it’s about an abundance of them. Keep in mind that Challenge is Growth, as you’re inspired. The best thing about inspiration is the Growth after the Challenge. You can overcome anything you set your mind to. If you’ve done that, then you’ve mastered the concept of inspiration that is called, Life.

Let me know what you think in the comments section and don’t forget to share.

Motivation: How To Know that Challenge Is Growth


Motivation: Providing with a reason to act in a certain way

Have you ever felt the need to do something because something inspired you? Or either woke up one day and thought, “I cant do this, but I have to?” Of course, we’ve all been there. Either doing our best to get out of a bad situation; Or seeing something that inspires us to unlock our FULL potential. A challenge.

If you feel like you’re in a dead-end situation; whether its relationships, jobs that you DISLIKE very much etc. I promise you, there’s light at the end of the tunnel; easier said than done. It’s very much a cliché. But I can also promise you, it’s not impossible.

Take it from me.

I’ve had numerous occasions where I felt like shit is taking too long; saying to myself, “Why is Life very difficult?” or “Why’s this happening to me?/How do I get out of this situation?”

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I’ve spent 6 years in the Army. Specifically, you might ask, “What’s worse than spending SIX years in the Army?Being in the Infantry. I can pretty much say that although I’ve never been Active Duty before, it’s still sacrificing my weekends to do some bullshit in the woods. Best believe, it’s hard to have motivation when we’re sitting around doing nothing. Or even worse, Training in bad weathers!

Motivation: Fort Polk; “The Devil’s Asshole”

I went to Fort Polk, Louisiana for the summer of 2016 for three weeks. For one thing, I never wanted to leave the Army so fast before that summer. Could you imagine? Training in conditions where its 105 degrees EVERYDAY?! Spending 12 out of 21 days in the field? It got so bad, that even some of the Most Physically and Mentally tough soldiers, passed out MULTIPLE times.

*me sweating profusely in the prone position*:

I Gots To Get the Fuck Out of Here. All I have is one more year. WHAT THE FUCK!

Just to make matters worse. I’ve seen a soldier dehydrated to the point where the medics had to stick a thermometer in his ass THREE TIMES! They more so had to cool him down with a cold wet blanket so his body can reach normal temperature.

You think it cant get worse than that? LMAO. Remember when I said “We’ve spent 12 days in the field?” Imagine. Walking around with so much gear on, in a training environment. Waiting for the enemy to attack. Meanwhile, It’s Blazing Hip Hop and R&B..HOT 97 (plus more) outside. Which means our enemy wasn’t JUST the people that was coming for us. We had to fight the WEATHER and TERRAIN.

Profusely sweating without having the chance to change my shirt, I’ve caught prickly heat on my back, neck and shoulders. Listen, I never wanted to go AWOL before that experience until then. It’s by far, worse than anything ive experienced. I’m thinking in my head:

how could anyone ever live in such a HOT ASS FUCKING STATE?!

Hard to think of motivation in the Devil’s Asshole.

It’s very difficult to maneuver with prickly heat on your back. The gold bond Body powder was of some assistance but it wasn’t doing much. The only Clear cure for this Bullshit is a shower. Which seem close yet so Far Away. Besides a shower, what my motivation was the end of my contract the following year.

Motivation: Challenge is Growth.

I’ve spent 3 weeks in Australia this summer. Compared to the “devil’s asshole, Louisiana” it was actually a vacation. Though it couldn’t feel like a vacation because I also thought of the death of my brother, Damien (in which ive written about him in The Surreal Moment post in the blog). I sat down one night and spoke to Staff Sergeant Melton about everything and I was curious about a lot of what we do. I asked him:

Sergeant, I understand the infantry is supposed to be the most physically and mentally demanding job in the military, but why do we have to sleep in the woods in almost EVERY drill.? And why the fuck we had to spend 12 days in the box ALMOST EVERY year for the last 3 years?

He laughed and told me that the “job isn’t for everyone.” He also said that It has been “pretty rough for the last few Annual trainings but it should die down next fiscal year. You’ve made it out other than the 50 people who went AWOL before showing up to Fort Polk. Challenge is Growth, man”

Since then, I lived by those words ever since. That was the best advice given to me, EVER. Which makes a LOT of sense.

Motivation:  The Conclusion.

Of course, I’ve stated earlier that it’s very difficult to motivate yourself in worst conditions possible. I’ve learned VERY LATE in my military career to understand that Challenge is Growth. I Live by those words everyday. I grew so much from circumstances that had no choice but to motivate myself. Some of you are in situations where you feel as if you cant overcome; let alone find it difficult to find that light at the end of the tunnel. If you’re ever in trouble that you feel as if you’re stressed out, ease your mind.

Try to Read books that are based on self-empowerment. If you’re a smoker, smoke weed (Personally I don’t smoke because I don’t like the smell but I’ll tolerate it). Soak Your feet in hot water (not too hot, though). Listen to something therapeutic. I love listening to jazz late at nights, because it brings such relief to my daily life. If you’re religious, say a prayer.

Life is hard.

Of course. If it was easy, how would we grow from the challenges that we face? I almost slipped into a log in a swamp at Fort Drum, NY. Lost in the dark in the woods to the point where my night vision goggles weren’t working. I got fired from Target on July 2nd 2015 over some stupid shit, which is the reason why I started this blog. Last year, I was at my old security job. I was let go from a site without warning. Went to the office and asked for a different site. My account manager told me the “only site available that I ca give you is in Long Island. for $9/hour.”

I AUTOMATICALLY refused. He gave me a refusal form, I filled it out. He then left and came back. Told me I signed a “resignation letter.” Basically saying that I resigned (which didn’t make sense but, aiight). You know what I told him?

“Suck A Dick..and fall down some wet stairs sideways”

Then I left.

With that being said, you are able to overcome any circumstance given to you in life. When you get home from a hard day at work; or waking up in the day dreading to go to work, just look in the mirror. Tell yourself, that “I Can get through this.” Or you can just watch Dj Khaled on snapchat. LOL At least that’s what I do when I’m in need of motivation.

Tell me your opinions. Leave a comment. Let me know what u think. Thank u